Wednesday, November 26th, 2014

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IMG_0678In the quiet stillness of the morning, you decided it was time to transition from the warmth of my womb to the world of wonder awaiting your arrival.  As dawn broke, the sun rose over the hills spreading orange hues that lit up the violet sky and turned down the stars.  Fifteen hours later, after the sun traversed the sky blazing the trail for the moon, your father and I held you in our arms.

You joined us on the eve of February 1st 2002.

We greeted you with great expectations.  We celebrated your arrival surrounded by your aunties and grandparents.  Feelings of joy mixed with exhaustion flooded my senses as I watched your father gaze down upon you.

That evening, in the quiet of the hospital, after everyone had gone home, your father slept in the bed while I rocked you in my arms.  I whispered stories of love in your tiny little ears of what I believed our life would be together.  In that moment, I had no idea how powerful a teacher you would be in my life.

Very early on, I knew you were a very special child.  The neurologist diagnosed you with autism at 2 ½ years.  I sat in his office feeling as though the air had been sucked out of the room.  And there you stood, watching the birds fly, banging your hands on the window just as you did moments before, completely unaffected by the label.

Nothing changed and everything changed.

I swam in the depths of sadness and grief for quite some time.  At times I felt like I was drowning, pinned down by the force of crashing waves, over and over again.  I fought the waves, struggled to breathe, so full of fear.

You waited for me, standing on the sand, gazing up at the stars, birds flying above, watching the whales and dolphins play; your faith in me never waivered.

You patiently guided me to find my way back home to love.

A beautiful, pure love swirls around you and engulfs anyone that comes within your realm of being.  You touch lives with the simplest of interactions.  At the grocery story, the park, Costco and walking down the street.  Anyone who takes the time to connect with you experiences the joy of wordlessness and is forever changed by your love and sensitivity.  You teach each person what it means to truly connect from a place of love and peace.

I believe you showed up in this world as a profound teacher. Oh how the lessons have come fast and furiously.  Feels like a space shuttle burning up through the atmosphere, thoughts surfacing and burning up with a greater awareness.

You’ve taught me love blows fear to pieces.

I’m deeply grateful you chose me as your mother and continue to teach me to listen and lead from the place of peace and clarity.  I support your journey every day with love and renewed hope for a day when autism will no longer be a painful struggle for so many.

Whenever I feel a bit stressed or out of sorts, all I need to do is take a few deep breaths, get present and share a moment with you.  You show me the way back to love.

Happy Birthday dear sweet Ian.

Love.
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Last weekend I said goodbye to my husband and younger son as they set off on an adventure to Disneyland.  Lane could barely contain himself; such joy and excitement.

This meant I had a weekend alone with sweet Ian.

Since Ian does not use verbal language, it also meant great opportunities to drop into wordlessness and tune into his non-verbal communication.

Ian and I spent the early part of the morning in a peaceful state of wordlessness. Moving about the house in our routine, eating breakfast, playing, and relaxing.

Then he wanted to go outside.

No doubt, to jump on his beloved trampoline.  I checked the temperature – 45 degrees; too cold for this Californian girl. I helped him outside and onto the trampoline and expressed I wasn’t interested in jumping in the cold and asked him to let me know when he was done.

Often, he does this thing to lure you out to jump with him.  He’ll come to the edge as if he’s ready to get off and the moment you come outside, he drops back in, gives a certain look and makes a sound to invite you to join. He’s trained many of us this way.

As I walked back to the door though he gave me different look.  “Something” told me to stand at the open door. He wasn’t inviting me to jump. It felt like he was asking me to watch.  So, I stood there and he started to jump and squeal with delight.

I gasped!  He did a trick!  He wanted to show me something he’d learned. He dropped to his knees and tried to bounce back up on his feet.  I’d never seen him do this before.  His brother and cousin were doing it the other day.  Well, his cousin was TRYING to do it in his adorable almost-2-year-old way.  (Here’s a video of the three of them jumping together.)

Ian wanted to show me how he could do it too.

He was so proud of himself and happy to share it with me.  As soon as he showed me, he promptly moved to the edge of the trampoline and asked to get out – in the beautiful, clear non-verbal way that he does.

Had I not allowed myself to enter a state of stillness and tune into what he was asking I would have missed it completely. Throughout the weekend, I moved in and out of stillness and each time I returned to stillness, Ian rewarded me with his presence.

My favorite moment happened Sunday morning.

Normally he wakes up and wanders into my room, often with a detour to the bathroom to turn the water faucet on and off several times. He loves to hear running water. Then his sweet feet pad down the hall and down stairs to start his day with his brother.

On Sunday though, he walked straight down the hall to the edge of my bed and climbed in all on his own. We lay there for another blissful thirty minutes snuggling and dozing before he decided it was time to start the day.

How to reach a state of internal stillness?

Here are some simple steps you may explore.

1. Remove distractions that will pull you out of the present moment.
2. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?” with the intention to notice any physical sensations or tension in your body.
3. What do you notice about your breathing? Is it shallow and fast or deep and relaxed? Then take a few moments to take three deep breaths all the way into your belly.
5. Focus on your five senses (sight, sound, touch, taste, smell) and one at a time, see what you notice.
6. Lastly, bring your awareness to your hands. See if you feel the pulse of your blood moving in and out of your hands with each beat of your heart.

You’ll find an excellent compilation of how to’s (plus so much more) in Martha Beck’s latest book, Finding Your Way in a Wild New World. It includes simple yet powerful exercises to help you reach a state of stillness, peace and wordlessness. I highly recommend it.

The more you practice, the easier you’ll find your way back to a state of stillness and peace. Feel free to reach out to connect via email if you have questions regarding the suggested steps listed above.

I’ve love to hear about your personal experience with stillness. Please share in the comments below.

Peace.

Well, he didn’t literally fly a plane.  He asked his brother and Dad to fly their paper airplanes through the air to his total delight.

After dinner one night last week, Ian and I sat on the couch while Lowell and Lane constructed paper airplanes.  Lane launched his across the room. Ian showed mild interest.  Then Lowell launched his and it flew straight over Ian’s head.  That’s when Ian squealed with delight.

Lowell and Lane quickly lined up on the other side of the room and launched their planes again. Ian giggled and watched as they glided overhead.

Then something quite special happened.  As Lowell and Lane stood ready to launch, Ian made a sound that translated to “Do it again!”  In Ian’s language, this sounds like “Aaaaa”  The three of us looked at each other wide-eyed, full of excitement. Then off launched the planes!

Ian made the connection that when he vocalized his request, Lane and Lowell would respond by launching their planes. In that moment, with Ian leading the game, it felt like we’d crossed a bridge together, as a family, playing this simple paper airplane game.

Pure play and delight continued for over ten minutes before I asked Lowell to grab the video camera.  I caught Ian’s last few requests on camera just before he began to fade into sleep.  If you watch the video you’ll see Lane and Lowell wait for Ian to make his request.  Ian’s voice is very quiet but you’ll hear his giggle very clearly after the second toss. Enjoy!

Hearing Ian’s laughter let us all know we found a way to cross the bridge together.  These moments weave the rich tapestry of love and joy into our every day life.

I wish you and your family many sweet moments over the holiday season that weave love and joy into your life.

Cheers!

Vaccine manufacturers injured my son.  Can you relate to this thought? Do you believe this thought or something similar?  What are your thoughts about vaccine manufacturers or pharmaceutical companies?

IMG_4462My son Ian, has autism and does not use verbal language to communicate.  He received vaccinations through six months of age.  I stopped because I believed vaccines caused injury to his nervous system, digestive system and immune system.  Within his first four months of life, I noticed delays in his development.  He developed reflux within the first six months and I witnessed his first seizure at eleven months.  Though I suspect they were happening before that time.  (If you’re curious to read more about Ian’s story, visit my About Ian page.)

Believing the thought “Vaccine manufacturers injured my son”, created many years of suffering in my world.  It affected the way I treated the people in my life.  I was full of anger and quick to point the finger with blame and judgment. This single belief created great tension and stress that radiated outward to everyone around me.

I questioned thoughts that created stress in my life for several years using a method developed by a woman who I consider a master teacher of our time, Byron Katie.  Katie has given our world the gift of The Work.

My first experience with The Work blew the doors off the hinges of my mind and showed me it was my thoughts that created the prison I “thought” was my life. I walked away from that experience with a new awareness and understanding that I was not the victim of my circumstances.  I went from feeling trapped, to realizing I had all the power to be free of suffering.  I’ve been using The Work ever since.  I wrote about my experience in the post, The Day I Discovered My Freedom.

IMG_4384Last December, as my husband and I drove to Katie’s New Year’s Mental Cleanse event, I filled out a Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet and set the intention to do some deep work.  When I stood up and read my Judge-Your-Neighbor worksheet to Katie, my entire body shook and I could barely make it through to the end.  She invited me to join her and do The Work.

Belief after belief shattered into pieces.  I discovered in the process that I did not know whether vaccines injured my son.  I couldn’t absolutely know for sure.  Wow, that was an eye opener.

It turns out, the event was video taped and Katie recently released a DVD titled The Work on Autism.  It includes my experience of dissolving one painful belief after another.  This video shows a brief two-minute segment from the DVD.

I left the room that evening feeling a thousand pounds lighter and with a newfound compassion and understanding.  For me, Katie is pure love.  I’m deeply grateful for her wide open heart and that she made this experience available to share with you.

To this day, the anger and blame I felt is gone and replaced with gratitude.  If it ever returns, I now have The Work to find my way back to love.

A few times a year, I write a guest post on Hopeful Parents, a blog space where parents of special needs children share their stories.  This month’s post I write about birthdays, toilets and celebration!  In the Hunter home, we celebrate the basic functions in life.  ;)  Below is an excerpt.  To read the entire post, click here:  Birthdays, Toilets and Celebration.

In the past, with each passing of another year, I would suffer a little more imagining what my son, Ian’s life would be like if he never got out of diapers.  How will he be treated as an adult?  Will he be treated with compassion and respect?

These were old thought patterns that created tremendous stress and emotional pain.

I began turning those patterns around three years ago through The Work of Byron Katie.  As my experience with The Work continued, I built more and more evidence that if I changed my inner mind, the external world followed.  It may sound crazy and counter intuitive but I promise you it works.  But don’t take my word for it.  I invite you to test it for yourself.

Here’s one example of a big shift that starting in my mind and now shows up in the external world.

Up until about eight months ago I didn’t know if Ian would ever be out of diapers.

Then one day, I made the decision to start believing he would be potty-trained by Christmas.

The original thought “Ian will never be potty trained” created great stress.  The new and improved thought, “Ian will be potty trained by Christmas” felt like freedom.  I couldn’t know for sure if either thought was true so why not believe the more peaceful, freeing thought?  Made sense to me.

It didn’t matter that I had no clue how it would happen.

I just trusted that it would. (to continue reading the entire article, click here.)

Thanks for stopping by.  And I’ll be sure to update on the blog after the New Year with news on Ian’s progress.  :)

Recently, Mey Lau from Baby Sign Language approached me and asked to share information about sign language on my blog. The way I see it, Ian communicates all the time and sign language gives him an additional tool to help us understand his wants, desires and needs. It opened up a world of connection for all of us in the family we use it every day.

I want to thank Mey for offering to write this guest post about her experience with sign language and how it can help provide the bridge between you and your pre-verbal child.

Please sign

Please sign

Those of us who have worked with or cared for nonverbal children can sometimes wonder if they just don’t want to talk. Do they need to talk in order to communicate? Sure, our culture puts a lot of pressure on verbal communication, for obvious reasons. Life is easier for those of us who can speak. But are we missing out on other modes of communication?

Like body language? Like facial expressions? Like sign language? More than 30 years of research and scores of testimonials support the notion that nonverbal children with autism can communicate with sign language. Children are usually happy to move about, happy to wave their arms and move their hands. If we encouraged this behavior, maybe life would be better for our children, and for us.

While sign language can be intimidating, it is important to know that one doesn’t have to learn the entire language in order to benefit from it. Many families simply take it one sign at a time. If a child is fond of a particular toy or object, then learn the sign for that! If one event is particularly stressful for a child, then learn a sign that can help lessen that stress.

Signing with your child promotes social interaction. Even if she doesn’t always make eye contact when you sign with her, at least the invitation is there. And watching a child you love sign is a joyous event. You get to experience the entire package. Not only do you learn what is going on in your child’s mind, but you get to see her beautiful body perform the communication, her face often supporting the thought. It can be cute enough to make you laugh, and it can be profound enough to make you weep. It’s communication at its best.

Sign language helps prevent us from limiting our children. If they are preverbal, it is not the end of the world. Nonverbal does not mean non-communicative. Give signing a try and see how your child responds. Just remember to take it slow, without any pressure, and to enjoy every word, spoken or not.

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Planting seedsDisaster struck when my first son, Ian received his diagnosis of autism.  So I thought.  That disaster seven years ago in 2004 turned into a beautiful unfolding of love, compassion, acceptance and renewal.  But when I first heard the news it felt like a fire ripped through my garden and ravaged my soil.  Life within me died.  I felt desolate, empty, broken.

In 2005, I read the book, “Expecting Adam” by Martha Beck and felt a tug of hope but the soil in my garden remained dry, undernourished and neglected.  It took nearly three years for the soil to recover and reach a state of acceptance where it was ready for nutrients.

Early 2008 I began to listen to Wayne Dyer CDs on my iPod during my runs.  I named these times my “mental health breaks”.  The sun began to peek through and warm the soil.

Next came the seeds and much needed water! Early 2009 I attended a one-day workshop in San Jose with Martha Beck, best-selling author, monthly columnists for “O” magazine and life coach.

Half way through the day I experienced an overall body vibration, like I was sitting in a massage chair.  At one point I saw a yellow hue around Martha and thought I may possibly be hallucinating from lack of sleep or perhaps I was going temporarily insane.  None of that mattered though because the openness I felt was unmistakable.  My path lay clearly before me and it felt truer than anything I’d felt in many years.

I promptly purchased her book “Steering by Starlight”, signed up to train with her as a life coach and attended a three-day workshop with horses, Martha and Koelle Simpson (another one of my great teachers.)  Time to receive the lessons.  The seeds burrowed themselves in the soil, desiring nutrients, water and sunlight.

At the three-day horse workshop, I went from feeling trapped by my son’s autism to seeing that the only place I was trapped was in my mind! I sat there in Scottsdale, Arizona while my son remained safely back at home in California.

I was free! It was my thoughts about my son’s autism that created my suffering and I was ready to let that go of those painful thoughts.  My garden began to sprout and took in exactly what it needed to produce the most delicious, fulfilling harvest imaginable. I love my garden!

So, now in 2011, here I am, exactly where I’m supposed to be; taking it all in, open to the possibilities and trusting that I will know exactly where to go when I follow my inner compass.  It’s all there waiting for me to show up and lead my life.  I’m no longer stuck, my excitement is boundless.  Now I learn about tending my garden and what it takes to keep it filled with love and abundance.

I’m profoundly grateful to my son, Ian for being my greatest teacher and for leading me to this moment.  His body and brain continue to be affected by autism and he shows me every day how incredibly brave and courageous he is.  He still has many challenges and his body works hard to heal itself.  I’m in awe of what he puts up with and I’m pretty confident I wouldn’t handle it with as much grace and patience.

I’m deeply grateful for every small step forward on his healing journey.  He’s taught me to celebrate the small things. And the big things?  I imagine a day when he no longer has seizures and no longer requires diapers.  I believe those huge steps are absolutely possible because he’s shown me in so many other ways how he’s capable of healing.

Ian’s message is powerful.

He’s here to show us the importance of finding our way back to balance, to bring our earth back to balance, to make it a safe environment for him and others like him to live peacefully and safely in their bodies.

The longer we remain out of balance the louder the message will become and more children and families will suffer.  I’m hopeful that the “voices” of our pre-verbal children have become loud enough for our society to hear.  The time for finding our way back as a human race to a state of balance, love and peace has arrived. I believe it’s possible and I will never give up hope.

If you want to create a new perspective in your life I invite you to make one small change to a pattern that creates suffering and pain and see what happens.  What is one thing you can do for yourself today to plant one small seed?

With love and healing.

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I write a monthly blog post for Hopeful Parents. Their website is dedicated to supporting families of special needs children. This month’s post I wrote about the meaning of the word autism in our world today and I ask, what does autism mean to you?

Here’s an except from my March 31st post. Please click here to read the entire post.

With statistics like 1 in 70 boys diagnosed with autism, if you don’t have a child with an autism diagnosis you likely know someone who does and have created a meaning for the word in your mind.

I invite you to sit for a moment and open up your awareness to what words, what feelings, what images come up for you when you think of the word autism.

Are they words and images that bring up feelings associated with fear, pain, suffering, anger, or guilt?

Have you noticed that as a society, we’ve been programmed to respond in fear and despair when a child is diagnosed with autism? I’m not saying those feelings are invalid in any way or that our children are not suffering. What I want you to consider is how you respond to the meaning behind a word.

With the start of Autism Awareness Month tomorrow I want to bring more awareness to the way we as a society think about autism and the feelings associated with the word. I want to invite more acceptance and understanding for our children and families living with the diagnosis every day. (Click here to read the entire post)

Here’s to a month filled with more awareness AND acceptance.

Please post a comment on the blog if you’d like to share what the word autism means to you.

Mother holding handYesterday my caregiver called in sick, which meant I adjusted my workday to spend the day with Ian.  If you’ve read my blog before you’re aware that Ian has autism, is pre-verbal and he is highly sensitive to all the non-verbal cues in his environment.

I let him know I wanted to run some errands (my need) and he walked to the car, opened the door, climbed in and was ready to go.  All was calm.  First stop, the bank, which took longer than expected.  I noticed he started to get antsy.  I checked in with my own body and felt a little tense.  (my feeling) Hmmm, he was mirroring my energy perfectly.

Second stop, CVS.  I already had the thought that the bank took too long and going to CVS might push him too far.  I wanted to get a money order and a couple items.  Ah, I realized I was attached to the outcome and as we walked the aisles he started to get vocal. I took a couple deep breaths, let go, returned to the present moment and started to sing to him, which calmed him down.  We both relaxed, I found the item and we headed to the checkout.

Several people stood in line before us and I thought, “I don’t know if he’ll be okay waiting.”  Guess what?  He wasn’t. He yelled.  People turned towards us with that expression of “what the heck was that?” They had a look of confusion as they saw this 9-year-old boy making strange noises. He felt their energy and yelled more.

I took a couple deep breaths and noticed tension in my own body and thoughts arose that he was disrupting the store and the shoppers. Then I paused, came back to the present and trusted I had all the power to lead him through this experience safely and calmly. He just wanted to feel safe and be led.  (his need) It didn’t matter what the shoppers thought, that was their business.

He didn’t feel safe and he let me know with his behaviors. At this point he even hit me a couple times to really get his message across because it was taking me a bit longer than usual to come back to the moment.

I set a boundary with love and compassion and let him know I heard him.

I connected with his need to feel safe.  I reassured him that he was perfectly safe, I was there with him.

My voice was calm and loving (because the words don’t matter) and let him know I trusted he could do this.  I asked him for patience and to stay with me.  (my request) I found my way back to a peaceful state and he began to calm down.

He did go towards the door one time where I gently redirected him back into the store.  I didn’t physically stop him; my body blocked him from about four feet in front of him.  Then my hand extended an invitation to go back inside.  I reiterated that I trusted he could do this, waited for him to take my hand and led him back to the checkout counter.

He expressed himself a couple more times and I didn’t react or give it attention. We completed the purchase and as we walked out together I thanked him for his understanding and patience.

He had the room and freedom to express himself; I didn’t try to stop him from yelling.  I made requests and he granted most of them and the ones he didn’t, I set boundaries.  I didn’t physically restrain him or force him to do anything.

In the past, before working with the horses I would have spiraled into a state of stress and anxiety right along with him.  I likely would have left frustrated before making my purchase and felt like an bad mom. It also would have shown him that type of behavior worked to get out of the store.

Thankfully, I now have another way to navigate these experiences when I stay present, calm, aware, unattached to a specific outcome and connected with both of our needs.

If you’d like to learn how to restore calm in your relationships and lead from a place of peace, I’m here to show you there is a way and it feels like freedom!

The Process

So how do we as parents teach our children what is important in life without telling them what to do?  Here the process I use and I hope by sharing the example above you have a feel for how it works.

The short answer – you show rather than tell.

You invite without attachment to outcome.  You lead by example and give your children the space to express themselves so they have the opportunity to learn from their mistakes.  When their behavior doesn’t feel good, you set boundaries with love and compassion.

What keeps parents from doing this?  Fear.

Fear that if you let go of control chaos will result.  Do you relate to this?  I sure do.  I’m a self-proclaimed recovering control-a-holic and have been in a state of deep letting go for two years now.  If you answered yes, what do you fear will happen if you allow your child the space to express himself and make mistakes?

When we tell our children what to do we squash their basic human need for autonomy and this is where resistance and power struggles arise.  We teach them to behave to please others and disconnect from their own inner guidance system.  I’m not saying allow your child to do whatever he or she wants.

I’m saying lead your own life and allow them the space to make choices.  Let them know when their actions and behaviors make you uncomfortable and set healthy boundaries…with love and compassion.

I’ll say it again, set healthy boundaries with love and compassion, not with frustration and demands.  These are two very different approaches.  One represents true leadership and the other, control and domination.  How do you feel when someone tells you what to do and you feel you have no choice?

There is another way to parent from a place of peace.

One rapid way to learn is step into a round pen with a horse.  But since you’re likely sitting in a chair reading this from some type of electronic device here’s a list of steps to help you find your place of peace.

  1. Awareness – Notice when when you feel any sort of tension in your body or emotion that creates stress.  Notice what happens in your body and where.  Your child will feel your stress.
  2. Identify your need. Ask yourself what you need in this moment to return to a state of calm.  Sometimes it just takes a pause and a couple deep breaths.  Other times it may take a lot more including some thought work.  Have compassion for that part of you that’s struggling.
  3. Identify your child’s need. What is the need behind the expression/words/behavior from your child.  See if you’re able to see past the behavior and hear the need your child is trying to communicate no matter how distorted it’s getting expressed.  Every behavior is a form of communication.
  4. Connect with your child’s need with compassion, understanding and empathy.  This may not require any words.
  5. Set healthy boundaries with love and compassion when your child’s behavior doesn’t feel comfortable to you.
  6. Make a request without attachment to whether the request is met or not.  Allow them the space to make a mistake and learn from that experience as long as it is safe to do so and set boundaries where you need to.
  7. Stay present throughout this process.  If you notice yourself getting all wound up in thoughts and emotions ground yourself back in the present by focusing on the five senses.  What do you see, smell, hear, feel, taste?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.  Please share in the comments what works for you or where you find yourself getting stuck.

Ian 4 month old

Ian 4 months old

February 1st 2002 my husband and I welcomed our first son, Ian into this world and into our family with love and great expectations. Within the first three weeks I felt something was different.  At four months of age I dramatically changed my diet while I nursed to help his severe reflux.  At six months of age I decided to postpone vaccinations which resulted to this day in no additional vaccines.  Around eleven months of age I witnessed his first seizure and thus began the journey with neurologists, allergists, developmental specialists, speech and occupational therapists for Ian and for me, psychotherapy.

I look back to those first few years and remember it as a time filled with love shrouded by storm clouds of fear, anxiety, sadness, anger and the list goes on. I viewed my son as injured, sick and a child needing fixing.  My thoughts created an experience where I lived in a constant state of hyper-vigilance and I was drowning in my painful thoughts.

That was then.  This is NOW.

Ian with Daddy August 2010

Ian with Daddy August 2010

Today I see a very different child.  I see a child here to teach the world to clean up the toxins and I hear him clearly.  I believe this is why the number of children diagnosed with autism has increased dramatically over the last decade.  In 2010 the CDC reported 1 in 110 children were diagnosed with autism, a 57% increase from the same study done in 2002.

Children with autism have a powerful message and they will get louder and louder until we listen and make a shift.

You may think I’m talking about the toxins in the environment and yes, that’s part of it.  But the bigger message from him is to clean up the toxins in our mind, in our thinking.  Because the way I see it, everything in our world begins with thought.

This may sound pretty nutty to you.  That’s perfectly fine.  I don’t suggest you take my word for it.  Test it for yourself.  Use whatever form of inquiry that works for you.  I use The Work by Byron Katie.  I wrote about how The Work transformed my life in, The Day I Discovered My Freedom.

Find a thought that creates deep pain for you and write it down. Take it to inquiry and see what you discover for yourself.

When I started to clean up the toxins in my mind, clean up the thoughts that created stress and pain I began to see a world filled with love. The clouds began to lift and the light shone through.  The war began in my head and I had all the power to end the war.

As a result, Ian’s healing accelerated and he’s made more progress in the last year than ever before. His immune system is regulating and he’s spending more time in a state of ease rather than stress.  Recently, he’s eaten over 30 new foods and I wrote about it in the post Letting Go One Belief At A Time.

From where I stand now the world gets more and more beautiful every day.  And when it looks ugly and painful that’s a cue for me that there is more to clean out.

If I want the world to clean up, I start by cleaning up the thoughts in my mind.  Then I’m able to come to the table with a clear mind, compassion, understanding, love and acceptance.  I can participate in a discussion without anger, without resistance and with the intention for connection and to find a solution.  I believe at the core we all want the same outcome.  A world that is safe for our children.

Ian at the Dr. Masgutova Family Conference Jan. 2011

Ian at the Dr. Masgutova Family Conference Jan. 2011

Ian has a huge purpose as do all children with autism.  They are patiently waiting for us to clean up the world so it is a safer, more comfortable place for them to live, laugh, play and love and it starts by cleaning up the thoughts in our mind.

Are you ready to end the war and see the world from a different view?